What’s the mess…

What’s the message? Don’t just try to jump into a car note because you got yourself a cute job. Save up your money and buy cars for cash. You don’t have to “look” like you have money to feel good about yourself. You can just have some fuckin’ money. Save up $1500 for a car, then save another $1500, sell the car and buy a $3k car. Repeat this process until you get to $10 and 15$k. Now you’re driving the same car all of your broke ass friends driving only you’re not worried about a note. You’re never worried about a repo man. Never worried the new thing they do where they can CUT THE FUCKIN CAR OFF. Don’t be like the rest of the idiots, move from the hoop, to the slab, then to the foreign. To be honest wit you on some Houston shit…..you might wanna just stick wit the slab and upgrade that shit. That’s it for Financial Fridays this week. Thug life!

Ha! That post is everything. 

I recently was having a conversation (very heated) with someone about financials. You see, I have done that flashy thing. Walking around in 300 dollar pants and 300+ dollar bags and as much as I love nice things that flashy life just does not interest me anymore. I want to be a millionaire by any means necessary and I will not NOT be one because I couldnt hold on to my money! Recently, I land a nice cushy job. Making twice as much as I use to and I swear I still think I dont make hardly enough. I have this thing where I dont congratulate myself a lot but thats a different blog for a different day. So, here I am with this chump change so I decided I was finally going to treat myself to a new car. Now, currently I drive a 2007 cobalt. Its not in the worse condition but it does need some fixing (around $1500 worth which is laughable because I could easily pay and get that done… which I am going to). So I was in this state of mind that instead of getting this car fixed (a car that I still owe $4700 on) I could just get a new car. Now, usually car dealers want 10% down. Some how, some way I was able to talk a dealership into putting like 5% down which was around $1800. So I was sitting here about to buy a whole new car while I already had a running car that required less money to fix than this new car would have been costing me with a $450 dollar car note. So that would have been instead of $400 a month out of my pocket for a car note and car insurance about $900. I really had to take a step back and check every part of my life. I havent been to Italy, Germany, Singapore… anywhere… But I was willing to start paying all this extra money for something I really did not need. I could however, put that extra money towards my car and pay it off this year. 

I just really think living the American Dream and being wasteful are all in the same boat. You’re (at least I am) forever looking at what someone else has trying to figure out how you can get it. When in reality you already have “it”. You have it in the position you have it in and that needs to be good enough, I mean this blog isn’t for someone making $9/hr. You still need to work hard and aim higher. Get that college degree and sit cushy for a second. Sitting cushy for a second pertains to all of us. Why be wasteful with money. Fuck what everyone else has. Does it really matter? I rather have at least $30,000 saved up and then go drop some money on a new car rather than having $10k saved up and dropping money every month for 2 car notes. 

Now back to the conversation, the boy said “look at what youre driving I can tell how much you make, Im a fuel engineer Im always driving something new”. Oh, cute for you. But you dont own a home or have the education I have which gives me value. If you ever leave your cushy job you wont have the knowledge to go into your career field (lets just put it out there he works for the navy). He would definitely have to get education, unless he stays in the navy his entire life which is great! Good for him. But we live in 2 completely different lives. 

Dont judge me because I decided to not go buy that new expensive car. He said “Im always driving something new”. Pretty sure I have enough saved to where if I want a new I would have a new one. But I decided not to. i am not about the flashy life. Yea one month I may buy a 1k bag. But that would have to be a big reward and some good saving. I am just here for something different. I am trying to make my money work for me. Not the other way around. 


18 Things Women Shouldn’t Have To Justify

Thought Catalog

1. Putting themselves first. When Barbara Walters asked Michelle Obama if it were selfish that she openly makes herself her first priority she responded: “No, no, it’s practical…. a lot of times we just slip pretty low on our own priority list because we’re so busy caring for everyone else. And one of the things that I want to model for my girls is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.”

2. How little or much they’re eating, especially if it’s “unhealthy.” You can eat a big lunch without having to say “I haven’t eaten anything all day” or have some delicious ass nachos without saying “I totally deserve this, I was so good this week, I’ll start the diet again tomorrow.” More importantly, you shouldn’t have to always be interrogated with “that’s all you’re having?” or “you’re going to eat all that?!”

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The Toxic Binary of Powerful Women


Ii’ve really been wanting to address this topic for a while. I am currently taking an elective class while I am working full time, in which we have been discussing binaries and dichotomies surrounding women of colour. As such, troubling binary depictions of women have been high on my radar recently.

With all of this at the forefront of my mind, you can imagine the explosion that happened when I happened across Time Magazine’s Cover of Hillary Clinton. I have always been somewhat irked about how typically sexist the media is toward Senator Clinton. If you recall when she was last running in an election, the media were interviewing her unlike they have ever interviewed a male candidate. Here, you can read about when an interviewer asked her about which designer she was wearing, to which Clinton responded “would you ever ask a man that question?”. Additionally, during her campaign…

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The give and take

In life you always have to sacrifice, its whats knowing what to sacrifice the big problem. Especially, when it comes to relationships. People always say loves trumps all, but for a young professional that usually is not the case. I could not see myself right now sacrificing anything in my professional life. I dont even want anything or anyone to make me think about that. My love life is the ultimate sacrifice. I use to be closed out and didnt have the ability to express my emtions, but now I express them. Its usually just through loudness which I admit im working on.

For a great relationship to flourish it has to be give and take. Right now, the only great relationship I want to flourish are work related. Is that selfish of me? Of course, because I do have someone in my life, but it becomes a point to where I really dont care. I mean, I TRY to make it work but if I have to go to a conference for a weekend and you want to see me guess what im choosing, the conference.

Im sure if it was a male putting his career first this would not be a problem. Putting my career first maybe the reason I am 50 and alone, I just pray that I have something to show for it.

Why Is Imagination Important?

Definitely believe that imagination is a source of fire for great ideas.

Doug Does Life

Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere. ~Carl Sagan

Challenges require imagination

Whether we realize it at the time or not, imagination is used when we’re confronted with challenges.

A situation presents itself, we visualize what the different paths and outcomes will be and make a choice.

This process happens automatically and isn’t usually called imagination… but it is.

Our brain plays through scenarios and reviews outcomes, which then leads to a conscious choice being made.

Our brains practice visualization all the time, but we aren’t always aware it’s going on.

Visualization is natural and beneficial

Our brains use visualization all the time to solve problems and overcome challenges. This skill can be developed and actively used by anyone. Thinking about a problem beforehand and visualizing the exact results you desire make it more likely that result will be achieved.


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