…After all th…

…After all this money she earnt, she still show daddy what she learnt…

Kanye West

Never forget, you are a woman, and he, is your husband. Never let your pride, power or position take away from that dynamic. You became one because of the unconditional love you had for one another. When you are with him, you are still a strong and powerful woman, just remember you are HIS strong and powerful woman. Don’t take away you sensitivity and softness towards the man that you love more than anything else…

This was just a friendly reminder, to always be a woman. We are sensual. Just dont be sensual with everyone.




The only thing pretty

Are you the only thing?

I see people always and forever praising Glamour Gawds. But, where are the women/girls who are the ones of academic ability and capability being praised. I know most of you lifestyle and make up figures bring up that education is important (great for you), it just has a stronger impact coming from someone that actually practices what they preach. It has always been a competition, rather you want to admit it or not, and honestly it irritates me. Has anyone ever heard of being well rounded? I understand that business is business, but being intellectual should not be made to seem like it is being jeopardized for “all things pretty” to succeed.

I was scrolling down my instagram, pur usual (yes I said pur), and one of my favorite girls in the world posted a picture saying tag “the most inspirational people you know”, or something of that nature, dont directly quote me but it was of that essence. And how fitting only the glamour gawds were tagged (at least those were the only ones tagged when I was scrolling, there could have been other people from different industries tagged, but this is what I SAW) , or people that are correlated with that type of industry. Now, lets state a couple of facts. The girl that posted this, she is one I would consider apart of the glamour gawds (although she is educated and has her own business) her followers are more likely to be into that thing… fashion, makeup, all things pretty and nice. So this definitely has a direct correlation with glamour. Im just saying, its always “education this, education that” but can we tag someone of academic, financial, more than skin deep importance? Or is this not that type of party. Now yes, these women have built their brand and all that jazz so they are powerful in a sense and “all things pretty” is a billion dollar industry, but why does it seem that this is what has become more relevant and important.

Honestly, that is why I made this blog. To show that there is more. Hell yea, the shit sales but I rather teach my daughter about other things, sorry not sorry.

But no one is going to have this… are they. Nope. and I dont give a fuck because I am always here for the girls with the brains. Brains over beauty everyday.

Some of these girls that were tagged I actually love. Admire even. One of the girls came from the struggle so I am completely proud of her. I feel like society is going into a movement where we are moving from women being smart. They are just suppose to show up pretty and that irritates me. Because the men with the engineering degrees are so much better than the men that work at wendy’s but as long as a woman looks good, that’s all that really matters.

I am not, by any means, saying that women with books can not be “all things pretty”. Hey, that would make it even better. But that book side of them would not be as highlighted. Regardless of what any one says you know its true. I have my moment of “all things pretty” I wont even lie. I love my closet, I collect vintage blazers, I love viewing new collections but I rather walk through a bookstore, go to a philosophy seminar, read a couple pages of Plato’s Republic.

I give credit where credit is due. I am not trying to take any hard work from what these girls have achieved. I just think it is a problem when “all things pretty” is becoming the “only thing pretty”.


Pray for Purdue

Pray for Purdue

My Alma Mater means the world to me. It is what I call home and the safest place in life. Everyone that has attended Purdue, knows the pressure is intense but the legacy is so worth it. I have always wondered how you can cry for someone that you never knew, today I realized how. We are all boilermakers. Although we did not walk the same journey we have impacted the same legacy. I can not understand what could bring someone to commit such a crime. Just how I ponder over the hate crimes that still goes on at Purdue. Today I shed a tear for a boy I never knew, for a campus that I havent seen in 5 months, and for the family/students/staff and faculty that are distraught and heart broken. At the end of the day we are all and always will be Boilermakers. #BOILERUP

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18 Things Women Shouldn’t Have To Justify

Thought Catalog

1. Putting themselves first. When Barbara Walters asked Michelle Obama if it were selfish that she openly makes herself her first priority she responded: “No, no, it’s practical…. a lot of times we just slip pretty low on our own priority list because we’re so busy caring for everyone else. And one of the things that I want to model for my girls is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.”

2. How little or much they’re eating, especially if it’s “unhealthy.” You can eat a big lunch without having to say “I haven’t eaten anything all day” or have some delicious ass nachos without saying “I totally deserve this, I was so good this week, I’ll start the diet again tomorrow.” More importantly, you shouldn’t have to always be interrogated with “that’s all you’re having?” or “you’re going to eat all that?!”

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The Toxic Binary of Powerful Women


Ii’ve really been wanting to address this topic for a while. I am currently taking an elective class while I am working full time, in which we have been discussing binaries and dichotomies surrounding women of colour. As such, troubling binary depictions of women have been high on my radar recently.

With all of this at the forefront of my mind, you can imagine the explosion that happened when I happened across Time Magazine’s Cover of Hillary Clinton. I have always been somewhat irked about how typically sexist the media is toward Senator Clinton. If you recall when she was last running in an election, the media were interviewing her unlike they have ever interviewed a male candidate. Here, you can read about when an interviewer asked her about which designer she was wearing, to which Clinton responded “would you ever ask a man that question?”. Additionally, during her campaign…

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