Month: January 2014

The only thing pretty

Are you the only thing?

I see people always and forever praising Glamour Gawds. But, where are the women/girls who are the ones of academic ability and capability being praised. I know most of you lifestyle and make up figures bring up that education is important (great for you), it just has a stronger impact coming from someone that actually practices what they preach. It has always been a competition, rather you want to admit it or not, and honestly it irritates me. Has anyone ever heard of being well rounded? I understand that business is business, but being intellectual should not be made to seem like it is being jeopardized for “all things pretty” to succeed.

I was scrolling down my instagram, pur usual (yes I said pur), and one of my favorite girls in the world posted a picture saying tag “the most inspirational people you know”, or something of that nature, dont directly quote me but it was of that essence. And how fitting only the glamour gawds were tagged (at least those were the only ones tagged when I was scrolling, there could have been other people from different industries tagged, but this is what I SAW) , or people that are correlated with that type of industry. Now, lets state a couple of facts. The girl that posted this, she is one I would consider apart of the glamour gawds (although she is educated and has her own business) her followers are more likely to be into that thing… fashion, makeup, all things pretty and nice. So this definitely has a direct correlation with glamour. Im just saying, its always “education this, education that” but can we tag someone of academic, financial, more than skin deep importance? Or is this not that type of party. Now yes, these women have built their brand and all that jazz so they are powerful in a sense and “all things pretty” is a billion dollar industry, but why does it seem that this is what has become more relevant and important.

Honestly, that is why I made this blog. To show that there is more. Hell yea, the shit sales but I rather teach my daughter about other things, sorry not sorry.

But no one is going to have this… are they. Nope. and I dont give a fuck because I am always here for the girls with the brains. Brains over beauty everyday.

Some of these girls that were tagged I actually love. Admire even. One of the girls came from the struggle so I am completely proud of her. I feel like society is going into a movement where we are moving from women being smart. They are just suppose to show up pretty and that irritates me. Because the men with the engineering degrees are so much better than the men that work at wendy’s but as long as a woman looks good, that’s all that really matters.

I am not, by any means, saying that women with books can not be “all things pretty”. Hey, that would make it even better. But that book side of them would not be as highlighted. Regardless of what any one says you know its true. I have my moment of “all things pretty” I wont even lie. I love my closet, I collect vintage blazers, I love viewing new collections but I rather walk through a bookstore, go to a philosophy seminar, read a couple pages of Plato’s Republic.

I give credit where credit is due. I am not trying to take any hard work from what these girls have achieved. I just think it is a problem when “all things pretty” is becoming the “only thing pretty”.

xo

Pray for Purdue

Pray for Purdue

My Alma Mater means the world to me. It is what I call home and the safest place in life. Everyone that has attended Purdue, knows the pressure is intense but the legacy is so worth it. I have always wondered how you can cry for someone that you never knew, today I realized how. We are all boilermakers. Although we did not walk the same journey we have impacted the same legacy. I can not understand what could bring someone to commit such a crime. Just how I ponder over the hate crimes that still goes on at Purdue. Today I shed a tear for a boy I never knew, for a campus that I havent seen in 5 months, and for the family/students/staff and faculty that are distraught and heart broken. At the end of the day we are all and always will be Boilermakers. #BOILERUP

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48 Karl Lagerfeld Quotes That Will Make You Ask: Genius Or Sociopath?

I love him. I thought I was crazy for being so hard on myself.

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The iPod is genius. I have 300.
Vanity is the healthiest thing in life.
Sweatpants are a sign of defeat. You lost control of your life so you bought some sweatpants.
It would have been difficult to have an ugly daughter.
I didn’t play with other children.
When I was four I asked my mother for a valet for my birthday.
My sisters were sent away because my mother thought they were boring. I was not boring.
Be politically correct, but please don’t bother other people with conversation about being politically correct, because that’s the end of everything. You want to create boredom? Be politically correct in your conversation.
I’m not interested in history! That’s very childish. That’s Gay Pride.
The worst thing is when friends say, ‘Remember the good old days?’ Forget about the good old days! That just makes your present secondhand. What is interesting is now. If…

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What’s the mess…

What’s the message? Don’t just try to jump into a car note because you got yourself a cute job. Save up your money and buy cars for cash. You don’t have to “look” like you have money to feel good about yourself. You can just have some fuckin’ money. Save up $1500 for a car, then save another $1500, sell the car and buy a $3k car. Repeat this process until you get to $10 and 15$k. Now you’re driving the same car all of your broke ass friends driving only you’re not worried about a note. You’re never worried about a repo man. Never worried the new thing they do where they can CUT THE FUCKIN CAR OFF. Don’t be like the rest of the idiots, move from the hoop, to the slab, then to the foreign. To be honest wit you on some Houston shit…..you might wanna just stick wit the slab and upgrade that shit. That’s it for Financial Fridays this week. Thug life!

Ha! That post is everything. 

I recently was having a conversation (very heated) with someone about financials. You see, I have done that flashy thing. Walking around in 300 dollar pants and 300+ dollar bags and as much as I love nice things that flashy life just does not interest me anymore. I want to be a millionaire by any means necessary and I will not NOT be one because I couldnt hold on to my money! Recently, I land a nice cushy job. Making twice as much as I use to and I swear I still think I dont make hardly enough. I have this thing where I dont congratulate myself a lot but thats a different blog for a different day. So, here I am with this chump change so I decided I was finally going to treat myself to a new car. Now, currently I drive a 2007 cobalt. Its not in the worse condition but it does need some fixing (around $1500 worth which is laughable because I could easily pay and get that done… which I am going to). So I was in this state of mind that instead of getting this car fixed (a car that I still owe $4700 on) I could just get a new car. Now, usually car dealers want 10% down. Some how, some way I was able to talk a dealership into putting like 5% down which was around $1800. So I was sitting here about to buy a whole new car while I already had a running car that required less money to fix than this new car would have been costing me with a $450 dollar car note. So that would have been instead of $400 a month out of my pocket for a car note and car insurance about $900. I really had to take a step back and check every part of my life. I havent been to Italy, Germany, Singapore… anywhere… But I was willing to start paying all this extra money for something I really did not need. I could however, put that extra money towards my car and pay it off this year. 

I just really think living the American Dream and being wasteful are all in the same boat. You’re (at least I am) forever looking at what someone else has trying to figure out how you can get it. When in reality you already have “it”. You have it in the position you have it in and that needs to be good enough, I mean this blog isn’t for someone making $9/hr. You still need to work hard and aim higher. Get that college degree and sit cushy for a second. Sitting cushy for a second pertains to all of us. Why be wasteful with money. Fuck what everyone else has. Does it really matter? I rather have at least $30,000 saved up and then go drop some money on a new car rather than having $10k saved up and dropping money every month for 2 car notes. 

Now back to the conversation, the boy said “look at what youre driving I can tell how much you make, Im a fuel engineer Im always driving something new”. Oh, cute for you. But you dont own a home or have the education I have which gives me value. If you ever leave your cushy job you wont have the knowledge to go into your career field (lets just put it out there he works for the navy). He would definitely have to get education, unless he stays in the navy his entire life which is great! Good for him. But we live in 2 completely different lives. 

Dont judge me because I decided to not go buy that new expensive car. He said “Im always driving something new”. Pretty sure I have enough saved to where if I want a new I would have a new one. But I decided not to. i am not about the flashy life. Yea one month I may buy a 1k bag. But that would have to be a big reward and some good saving. I am just here for something different. I am trying to make my money work for me. Not the other way around. 

18 Things Women Shouldn’t Have To Justify

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1. Putting themselves first. When Barbara Walters asked Michelle Obama if it were selfish that she openly makes herself her first priority she responded: “No, no, it’s practical…. a lot of times we just slip pretty low on our own priority list because we’re so busy caring for everyone else. And one of the things that I want to model for my girls is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.”

2. How little or much they’re eating, especially if it’s “unhealthy.” You can eat a big lunch without having to say “I haven’t eaten anything all day” or have some delicious ass nachos without saying “I totally deserve this, I was so good this week, I’ll start the diet again tomorrow.” More importantly, you shouldn’t have to always be interrogated with “that’s all you’re having?” or “you’re going to eat all that?!”

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